زنی در مورد مجموعه ای از ملاقات های زندگی عادی خود که با افراد مختلف داشته است ، شرح می دهد  : همسر سابقی که به طور تصادفی با او در یک مجتمع عمومی برخورد می کند ، یک اجاره دهنده ی ملک که نمی داند چطور با مهمان های خود ارتباط برقرار کند ، غریبه ای که به دنبال آرامش مادر سالخورده ی خود است  و دوست دوران جوانی اش که بخاطر سرطان پیشرفته در بیمارستان بستری شده است.

What Are You Going Through by Sigrid Nunez

آنچه در زندگی تجربه می کنی نوشته سیگرید نونز  ( زیگرید نونز)

نویسنده:

Sigrid Nunez

سیگرید نونز

ناشر :

RIVERHEAD BOOKS

سال نشر :

۲۰۲۰

درباره ی کتاب رمان انگلیسی آنچه در زندگی تجربه می کنی نوشته سیگرید نونز:

زنی در مورد مجموعه ای از ملاقات های زندگی عادی خود که با افراد مختلف داشته است ، شرح می دهد  : همسر سابقی که به طور تصادفی با او در یک مجتمع عمومی برخورد می کند ، یک اجاره دهنده ی ملک که نمی داند چطور با مهمان های خود ارتباط برقرار کند ، غریبه ای که به دنبال آرامش مادر سالخورده ی خود است  و دوست دوران جوانی اش که بخاطر سرطان پیشرفته در بیمارستان بستری شده است.

آن زن در هر یک از این افراد یک نیاز مشترکی را پیدا می کند: تمایل به صحبت و به اشتراک گذاشتن تجریبات خود با شنونده

راوی داستان این گروه از صداهای مختلف را به عنوان یک شنونده منفعل تنظیم می کند ، تا زمانی که یکی از آنها درخواست عجیبی می کند و او را به یک تجربه عجیب و منقلب کننده دعوت می کند.

درکتابی که خواهید خواند ، خانم سیگرید نونز ، حکمت ، طنز و بینش را به رمانی که در مورد روابط انسانی و تغییر ماهیت آنها در عصر ما نوشته شده است ، اضافه می کند.

آنچه در زندگی تجربه می کنی یک داستان شگفت انگیز در مورد همدلی و روشهای غیرمعمولی است که یک نفر می تواند در سختی ها به دیگری کمک کند و تصویری سیار و محرک  از نحوه زندگی ما در حال حاضر ارائه می دهد.

What Are You Going Through by Sigrid Nunez

A woman describes a series of encounters she has with various people in the ordinary course of her life: an ex she runs into by chance at a public forum, an Airbnb owner unsure how to interact with her guests, a stranger who seeks help comforting his elderly mother, a friend of her youth now hospitalized with terminal cancer. In each of these people the woman finds a common need: the urge to talk about themselves and to have an audience to their experiences. The narrator orchestrates this chorus of voices for the most part as a passive listener, until one of them makes an extraordinary request, drawing her into an intense and transformative experience of her own.

In What Are You Going Through, Nunez brings wisdom, humor, and insight to a novel about human connection and the changing nature of relationships in our times. A surprising story about empathy and the unusual ways one person can help another through hardship, her book offers a moving and provocative portrait of the way we live now.

What Are You Going Through Quotes

“Neither season after season of extreme weather events nor the risk of extinction for a million animal species around the world could push environmental destruction to the top of our country’s list of concerns. And how sad, he said, to see so many among the most creative and best-educated classes, those from whom we might have hoped for inventive solutions, instead embracing personal therapies and pseudo-religious practices that promoted detachment, a focus on the moment, acceptance of one’s surroundings as they were, equanimity in the face of worldly cares. (This world is but a shadow, it is a carcass, it is nothing, this world is not real, do not mistake this hallucination for the real world.) Self-care, relieving one’s own everyday anxieties, avoiding stress: these had become some of our society’s highest goals, he said—higher, apparently, than the salvation of society itself. The mindfulness rage was just another distraction, he said. Of course we should be stressed, he said. We should be utterly consumed with dread. Mindful meditation might help a person face drowning with equanimity, but it would do absolutely nothing to right the Titanic, he said. It wasn’t individual efforts to achieve inner peace, it wasn’t a compassionate attitude toward others that might have led to timely preventative action, but rather a collective, fanatical, over-the-top obsession with impending doom.”
― Sigrid Nunez, What Are You Going Through

“Dying is a role we play like any other role in life: this is a troubling thought. You are never your true self except when you’re alone—but who wants to be alone, dying? But is it too much to want somebody somewhere to say something original about it? Not”

“Understood: language would end up falsifying everything, as language always does. Writers know this only too well, they know it better than anyone else, and that is why the good ones sweat and bleed over their sentences, the best ones break themselves into pieces over their sentences, because if there is any truth to be found they believe it will be found there.”

“The only thing harder than seeing yourself grow old is seeing the people you’ve loved grow old.”

“Youth burdened with full knowledge of just how sad and painful aging is I would not call youth at all.”

“Someone has said, When you are born into this world there are at least two of you, but going out you are on your own. Death happens to every one of us, yet it remains the most solitary of human experiences, one that separates rather than unites us.”

“Before man, the forest; after him, the desert.”

“I don’t know who it was, but someone, maybe or maybe not Henry James, said that there are two kinds of people in the world: those who upon seeing someone else suffering think, That could happen to me, and those who think, That will never happen to me. The first kind of people help us to endure, the second kind make life hell.”

“I think it’s largely true, what I once heard a famous playwright say, that there are no truly stupid human beings, no uninteresting human lives, and that you’d discover this if you were willing to sit and listen to people.”
― What Are You Going Through by Sigrid Nunez

“Be kind, because everyone you meet is going through a struggle.”

“What if all this time we have misunderstood the story of the Tower of Babel?…What if it was not just to different tribes but to each individual human being that a separate language was given, unique as fingerprints. And, step two, to make life among humans even more strifeful and confounding, he beclouded their perception of this. So that while we might understand that there are many peoples speaking many different languages, we are fooled into thinking that everyone in our own tribe speaks the same language we do.”

“This would explain much of human suffering, according to my ex, who was being less playful than you might think. He really did believe that’s how it was: each of us languaging on, our meaning clear to ourselves but to nobody else. Even people in love? I asked, smilingly, teasingly, hopefully. This was at the very beginning of our relationship. He only smiled back. But years later, at the bitter end, came the bitter answer: People in love most of all. —”

“The love of our neighbor in all its fullness simply means being able to say to him, “What are you going through?” —Simone Weil”

“Woman A often thinks about growing old. At the same time, she often thinks back to those years when old age seemed a very distant thing, more like an option than a law of nature.”
― What Are You Going Through by Sigrid Nunez

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